Another extended article on giving and relationship.

Another extended article on giving.Can`t wait to share with all of you:

Like what I said in the previous post, giving must be unconditional without expecting anything in return. This is even coincidentally brought up during service yesterday. Something to help you put this into practice: 

If we were to die tomorrow, where do you think our money, jewelry, car, etc etc are going to go? with you to heaven or the nether world? NO. Are your boyfriend or girlfriend going with you on a journey to reach heaven? NO. Since all things in this world is only momentary, it makes perfect sense to give. Think about it. Something that you give may not cost very much to you, but you will never know how much it could mean to that someone you`re giving it to. So give, give, for you will never know what will happen to you or your loved ones tomorrow. (Read more about this on my previous post)

Knowing that our gift has impacted others  and our loved one is indeed a great consolation to us. It is comforting to know that while we `re still in the world, we`re able to make them happy, of course without expecting anything back. That is where the real joy comes. Jesus died on the cross expecting nothing in return. I wanted to write this exact sentence on my previous article. And I was so taken aback when our pastor Jasmine also brought this up in service yesterday. What a coincidence. Not just once, but twice! 

Anyway know this fact about giving: We`ll never become poor by giving. 

Either it will come back to us in one way or another (don`t expect this) or  it will not. Nothing is supposed to bother you. When you give you give with your heart, knowing that the other person you bless has felt blessed by your blessing. To me, that is enough to make my day. 

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Now, something about relationship issue:

I feel the urge to write on this because I think this is very important whether or not you`re having a relationship with anyone now. It just comes to my mind. Perhaps God wants to bring this to your attention. I am merely his pen and pencil.

Do you actually understand what it means when you say, “You`re my boyfriend.” or, ” She is my girlfriend.” ??

DO u really understand the implications this might bring?

One thing they have in common is this: They are merely titles. And more often than not, they make you feel ‘good’. Be wary. Do not be deceived by this feeling.  

You can say you have a wife, but are you a good husband to your wife? 

You may say you have a boyfriend, but are you a good girlfriend to your boyfriend?

Take this time to really answer these questions in your mind..

What I see is this: These titles are not very important in a genuine relationship. You may say, “What??? are you crazy???” 

To me, what`s most important in a relationship is the relationship itself that you`re having with your loved one. May they be your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. Titles such as these are merely an illusion. Who created the title, ‘BF, GF, hubby, etc?’  MAN. Who created REAL relationship? YOU, God. When God partners together with you in an intimate relationship. That`s the point of this whole article. When you are with God and God is with you, NOTHING can be against you.

When God is in the centre of your relationship, you`re making your relationship work well with His plans. You are with God throughout your relationship with your lover and this is biblical. As long as we put God in the centre of everything, from school work to relationships, nothing is gonna go out of control because God is always in control with His plans and purpose. For His plans for you is to prosper and not to harm you. Jeremiah 29:11 (This is explained further in my previous article about relationships)

Ok, now back to relationship again.

People who needs titles such as, ‘Boyfriend, husband, girlfriend’ to FEEL like they are in the relationship with their lover are less than secure in their relationships with them. You can be a ‘wife’ or a ‘boyfriend’ to someone and you can still be a bad ‘wife’ or ‘boyfriend’. Do you get my point? Official titles such as these do not guarantee a REAL relationship, do you agree?

You don`t need titles to feel confident and secure in your relationship. You need God to feel confident and secure in your relationship. Because God is the master of relationship. For He is Love. 

So what I am trying to say all these while is this: Those titles are secondary, what you are having in your relationship should be the FIRST. The truth never deviates further than that.

Article on Love, imperfections and God centered relationship

I am here again as usual in the school library slacking after clocking in my card. And not very long ago, I had thoughts creeping up my mind again. And I am trying to recollect what they were…

These past few days I am not exactly sure what happened to me, I have more frequent dreams, divine interventions and visions, but I have confidence that whatever that is preached here will be for a greater good because it has come from Him. And I am sure of this. I am sure He wants to encourage all of us with His words. Words from a friend like me, or whatever you call it. You can choose to listen or to dismiss this as nonsense. Entirely your choice.

Oh yea,.. btw last night before I slept, upon seeking God, I managed to be reminded of something that I want to share with all of you people. God wants to encougare you all:

-Love one another as if today is their last day. How true is this phrase, really. When you think about it, it can seem a bit distant and riduculous. You might say, “Huh? it`s not as if my partner or loved one is going to evaporate from the face of this world tomorrow!”  Hmmm, kindda true.. But you will never know. You will never be sure 100% today if you`re going to see him or her the next day. Sounds serious? Yes it is.  What if tomorrow, I got knocked down by a car or a bus (touchwood), are people going to mourn for me? Is my mum going to be happy or sad for me? Are
YOU going to cry for me?  So take this chance EVERY DAY to REALLY love your loved one because you will never know what will happen to them tomorrow.

-Don`t take your loved one for granted, thinking that you would definitely see them the following day or something. Yes, it is good to anticipate. It means that you love seeing him or her. You love spending every quality time with him or her. So remember when you fight or have a quarrel, always try to resolve it on that very day itself. Don`t wait till tomorrow, because again, you are never 100% sure what tomorrow may bring. Resolve your problems as soon as it arises.

Now about Loving each other,

When I say, “I love you, Ich liebe dich, Je taime vous, Tiamo..” or anything like this, it doesn`t ONLY mean I love you. It means this: I want you. I need you in my life. I want to learn life`s lessons together with you. Let`s fail and succeed together. Let`s impact others together.  I wanna be a better lover to you each day. Because I know I am not perfect. Only with you am I whole. Well, okay, not 100% perfect yet, or I might as well be God. But you make me feel as if God is near. Infact God is there when we`re in communion together.  This is said through a verse in the holy bible, “When one or more of you comes together in my name, I will be there. “

This may sound like a marriage between two souls. But how true is this, we must learn to love one another as the Lord your God loves you. Your “marriage” with your God is eternal and intimate. Every minute of our life is a prayer to the Almighty.

-If we`re already a perfect partner for each other, then our relationship would be very dull and boring. Because there would be no more room for improvements. There would be no more room for discussions, tears or satisfaction when you know you have impacted the other soul interwined in you. Love is made special with the continual tearing and building of relationship. This not only makes the love and bonding special, but also more eternal and stronger. Only after you know how much you`ve impacted your lover`s life, you will taste the sweet fruit of true joy.

The harder it is to achive that wholesome love after all the pains and joys we experience together, the more we will treasure it, knowing that it doesn`t come easy. 

The love that is built this way is also naturally stronger and harder to break apart.  It is not so easy to destroy. (You will feel the beauty of it. Just look at some of your mum and dad.)

The opposite is also very true: The easier it is for you to obtain your love, the easier and faster you will lose it. (You will not treasure it that much because you think it`s not worth your tears and pains in the first place.)

So I just want to encourage you ppl this: Don`t be discouraged when faced by a trial or problems in your love life, because at the end of the long rocky road, you will eventually see green pastures. Just trust in God and put him in the centre of your relationship. This is very true and I will explain it further later.

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Now, just to add to yesterday`s discussion on imperfection.

-”Imperfection is what maketh a man.” MMM09 

A face without a single flaw is nothing more than just like a stone face of a roman godess carved out of marble. No matter how grandious or beautiful that statue is, it is lifeless. Void of imperfection.

“Imperfection is what makes you beautiful.” MMM09

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Something I believe makes a Relationship:

Relationship: (Real)+ Relate+ Ship

(I put the word “real” in the equation because it is read and pronouced just like the word, “RELA” in ‘RELAtion’)

God=  real (absolutely!) A relationship cannot be fake/pretentious or the relationship will have no meaning and no purpose at all to begin with. What do you want out of a fake relationship, tell me! I believe nobody here wants to have a fake relationship to begin with.

God= Love  (That is already proven by some other people, even in the bible!)

So that equation makes: Love is Real (Is it not?)

Relate= relating to one another well (consists of 2 persons in this context, you can`t possibly relate to yourself alone.)

Ship= A ship on the ocean needs someone(a captain/your lover) to navigate it or it will be lost in the waves. (esp during a storm(problem), etc) 

The word, “Ship” is also the end of the word, “Worship”. Therefore we need to worship God continually as we are in the relationship, be it with your lover or with Him, or with Him in a strong marriage between two people.

So with this, I can deduce that a relationship needs to be real(not fake) to work. And it needs God to be in the centre of IT. Since it is already proven that God is real and that God is Love. So Love must be real! God`s love, that is!! It is so real!

In a relationship, we also need to relate to one another because no relationship will work if you just focus entirely on yourself and your selfish desire. And don`t forget to include God in your relationship. Studies have proven that marriages last longer and more satisfying when God is in the center of it.

So, yea. This is what maketh a relationship. A real and God centred one. Hope this helps. =DD

 

Finally, last point for today: We`re imperfect lovers coming together as ONE. Let`s embrace each other with an open mind and spirit, having a unquenchable thirst to learn from each other in love. Let`s grow in our love stronger together and learn to correct each other.  Commitment is the key. Your heart is the keyhole.  So may I put this key into your heart so that I may unlock its beauty and splendour?

Love Story

This video is dedicated to someone…u know yourself, babe….HEHE

Anyway, back to some serious blogging, My cali roadshow will end on Sunday and so far I got one customer who signed us a $2000+ plan under me, yay!!! Thank God. Even though I was feeling sick this whole week, (I was down with fever, headache, flu and sorethroat) work still goes on for me!! yay!! Thank God for my zealousness and enthusiasm for work!! I hate being a wussy and losing my daily income just because I am sick…No sickness or anything will stop me from making money!!! HAHA. LOL. And nothing can stop me from praying and spending qt with God also!! cos he is the one that gives me strength when I am weak..Halleluja!!

This whole week has been quite a blessing actually. Met some really nice Tampines dwellers who were so gracious when I talked about Cali and asked for their surveys and ..and also some bastards who ignorantly ignore me when I tried to talk to them about my fitness plan. The give me the “I am fat, lazy and can`t be bothered, I don`t need exercise, cos I can`t possibly slim down!!” kind of sickening attitude…LOL. Work has been fun when u get to meet different ppl from different walks of life. I love sales and marketing so much!! hehe. Motivated to do greater things for God!!

Thurs was pretty scary for me. During work when I was feeling irritated, sick and tired, I suddenly received an SMS of my result..Boy!! thess preppy tp admin ppl can sometimes scare the hell out of you. Thank God I passes comprog and Qmethods, my two most dangerous subjects. Cos if I fail any of them, I will have to say “Bye bye” to TP, Singapore, Hope church and u ppl le..and that would not be a happy thing..haha. God sees everything and miraculously, through the many serious intercessions and prayer I had, together with 100% faith I put in him, He made me pass…Praise the Lord!!! I know that God knows that I didn`t deserve to pass comprog, because perhaps I didn`t put in that much effort in that hateful trash, but God is gracefull and GOOD!! see now…?? It couldn`t be a coincidence that I passes two of my most dangerous subjects, rite?? If it was really a coincidence why couldn`t I just pass one? LOL

Quite expectedly enough, the subject that I didn`t pray enough for, (Engine Econs) failed!! need to take supp le:( See..God listens to our prayer and determines of we are really 100% faithful and serious about it. In short, whatever I pray for, I receive it. And the things I don`t pray for, I don`t receive it. It works like that for me.. So we must all start praying le and with 100% confidence and faith that God will give us his blessing. Cos our God is not a God of coincidence, Amen..

Water baptism

(listening to: “I can only Imagine” by Mercy me)

 

CG was so enriching and fun on Friday. It was only my second time joining them but somehow I felt like I had been attending it for a long time. Felt so happy and blessed on Sat. Though it was a very long day, with prayer meeting from 2pm till almost 5pm then church service from 5.45 to around 8, we felt so light and “free” after that. Then we had dinner at Centrepoint to catch up with the guys. I was wondering if this was a small miracle. At first, I was apprehensive about the Water baptism but with my CG` s continuous support and spiritual guidance, I finally said OK…haha and even better, my shepherd Shawn, Glen, Wei Xiong and “who shall not be named here LOL”  agreed to be baptised together next Sun…B-) I was like : “Thank God , I dun need to feel so stressed about being baptised alone anymore!” Haha,…I can tell Lemmuel was damn happy that night. His whole care group was baptised!!! and  Chia Min too!!!!  Thank God for that!!! 

I wanna be a testimony to God, and stop sitting on the fence.. =)