Another extended article on giving and relationship.

Another extended article on giving.Can`t wait to share with all of you:

Like what I said in the previous post, giving must be unconditional without expecting anything in return. This is even coincidentally brought up during service yesterday. Something to help you put this into practice: 

If we were to die tomorrow, where do you think our money, jewelry, car, etc etc are going to go? with you to heaven or the nether world? NO. Are your boyfriend or girlfriend going with you on a journey to reach heaven? NO. Since all things in this world is only momentary, it makes perfect sense to give. Think about it. Something that you give may not cost very much to you, but you will never know how much it could mean to that someone you`re giving it to. So give, give, for you will never know what will happen to you or your loved ones tomorrow. (Read more about this on my previous post)

Knowing that our gift has impacted others  and our loved one is indeed a great consolation to us. It is comforting to know that while we `re still in the world, we`re able to make them happy, of course without expecting anything back. That is where the real joy comes. Jesus died on the cross expecting nothing in return. I wanted to write this exact sentence on my previous article. And I was so taken aback when our pastor Jasmine also brought this up in service yesterday. What a coincidence. Not just once, but twice! 

Anyway know this fact about giving: We`ll never become poor by giving. 

Either it will come back to us in one way or another (don`t expect this) or  it will not. Nothing is supposed to bother you. When you give you give with your heart, knowing that the other person you bless has felt blessed by your blessing. To me, that is enough to make my day. 

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Now, something about relationship issue:

I feel the urge to write on this because I think this is very important whether or not you`re having a relationship with anyone now. It just comes to my mind. Perhaps God wants to bring this to your attention. I am merely his pen and pencil.

Do you actually understand what it means when you say, “You`re my boyfriend.” or, ” She is my girlfriend.” ??

DO u really understand the implications this might bring?

One thing they have in common is this: They are merely titles. And more often than not, they make you feel ‘good’. Be wary. Do not be deceived by this feeling.  

You can say you have a wife, but are you a good husband to your wife? 

You may say you have a boyfriend, but are you a good girlfriend to your boyfriend?

Take this time to really answer these questions in your mind..

What I see is this: These titles are not very important in a genuine relationship. You may say, “What??? are you crazy???” 

To me, what`s most important in a relationship is the relationship itself that you`re having with your loved one. May they be your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. Titles such as these are merely an illusion. Who created the title, ‘BF, GF, hubby, etc?’  MAN. Who created REAL relationship? YOU, God. When God partners together with you in an intimate relationship. That`s the point of this whole article. When you are with God and God is with you, NOTHING can be against you.

When God is in the centre of your relationship, you`re making your relationship work well with His plans. You are with God throughout your relationship with your lover and this is biblical. As long as we put God in the centre of everything, from school work to relationships, nothing is gonna go out of control because God is always in control with His plans and purpose. For His plans for you is to prosper and not to harm you. Jeremiah 29:11 (This is explained further in my previous article about relationships)

Ok, now back to relationship again.

People who needs titles such as, ‘Boyfriend, husband, girlfriend’ to FEEL like they are in the relationship with their lover are less than secure in their relationships with them. You can be a ‘wife’ or a ‘boyfriend’ to someone and you can still be a bad ‘wife’ or ‘boyfriend’. Do you get my point? Official titles such as these do not guarantee a REAL relationship, do you agree?

You don`t need titles to feel confident and secure in your relationship. You need God to feel confident and secure in your relationship. Because God is the master of relationship. For He is Love. 

So what I am trying to say all these while is this: Those titles are secondary, what you are having in your relationship should be the FIRST. The truth never deviates further than that.

Giving, unconditional love and giving, problems..

Learnt and realized something very important this week. Thank God for all the time that He has blessed me with. I learn something new each day. Something about the wonders and magic of God`s love. 

Now I know what the meaning of ‘giving’ really is:

To give is to give without expecting nothing back in return. This is very much like unconditional giving. Giving without any hopes that you would get something back in return. Not setting up any expectations and hope means that there would not be no room for any disappointments. Unconditional love works this way also. That`s why God`s love is unconditional, because He would not get hurt. God cannot get hurt. He is all powerful. Being the Almighty means that He will not experience hurt and disappointments, make sense? If He does, then this shows that He is no god after all. I believe God is all powerful in this perfect sense that He is also a perfect God. In the Love verse, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”  This is my favourite verse in the whole bible.

In the first place, He loves us so much that He doesn`t expect anything in return from you. This is true as shown from the unconditional love that is shown through Christ when he dies for us on the cross.

“Unconditional giving and love is really giving and loving in it`s purest form.”

 

Brothers and sisters, I just want to encourage you this.At times, no matter how good and filial you are to your parents, there are bound to have a lot of disagreements. The Lord has made me see this:  

Your parents may say this, “You are in this world because of us and without us there wouldn`t be you!” Yes, this can be a valid and justifiable claim. But this is not always true. Well, not anymore. When you`re in Christ, you`re born again. And this time, you`re born out of the spirit and truth. And out of Love. God`s wonderful love. So when you parents say, “You belong to us.” It does not really mean that your life is in their hands. You don`t really belong to your parents after all. And the truth is this: Your life belongs to your Father in heaven who sees each tear you cry, not your daddy. No matter how much he says he understands you. 

I am NOT asking you to be unfilial toward your parents. Just so that you would be aware of the truth. There`s nothing like God`s love in this world. 

Your parents may “give” you the soul and the body in which you`re living in now. But God gives you the SPIRIT and the LIFE that He has willed for you to fulfill in this world. The word was with Him before you ever came into thoughts. He spoke you into motion even before your parents had any thoughts of you. So before “everything” begins with your parents, always remember that God is the author of your life. Your beginning and your end. 

 

Problems may arise. But may I address those who are problem laden for it`s Him who gives me the compassion to pen this down: 

Sometimes, problems and temptations in life can be too great and overwhelming for you to bear. But it really helps to think that it`s actually God who has allowed these obstacles to come your way. His purpose for you is to experience and learn from these opportunities. I trust that God will not let any problem that are much too big to come into your life more than you can handle. And whenever you feel that this happens, He will always have a way out for us. “No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it (1 Cor. 10:13 NASB).”

Telling God, “God, you`re in control of this!” may also help us alleviate these stress life can bring. Telling God that He is in control is letting Him handle your life. Have faith in Him that He will let these temptations and tough times come to pass by letting Him take the front seat and take the wheel of your life!! God is greater and BIGGER than those problems you are facing in life, therefore there`s nothing He cannot do! I believe in this. DO u ? 

Nothing is impossible for God. Impossible is nothing for God.